Friday, February 2, 2024

2024: Tony, Wine, & More

Welcome to 2024! 

Back in 2022, I mentioned I got a new part-time job at Whole Foods.  Well, sayonara, Whole Foods!

I quit back in October, shortly after passing my sommelier exam.  This coincided with my hours getting violently slashed.  As much fun as I had (I make my own fun), I felt increasingly underappreciated and undervalued there, especially when new part-timers were being hired even as my hours were being cut.  It felt like they were pushing me out, and I was more than happy to make room.

One of the things I got out of 2023 was that all of my most valuable experiences were travel opportunities.  Travel ain't cheap.

So after I quit, I took a month off and then began a job search.  I almost, almost, became a tour guide at Alcatraz, but opted instead to join Total Wine and More, which felt like it would really fit my current vibes.


And so far... it has!

It was a huge financial raise from Whole Foods.  While the commute is much longer, it's well worth it.  I knew I was in the right place when my first day involved signing paperwork and then attending a wine tasting.

For the last three weeks, I've been working with a team of other new hires to get the new Corte Madera store in proper working order.  (The Venn diagram of sommelier certification and forklift certification is just a circle, it turns out.)  It's been rewarding physical labor combined with the satisfaction of seeing everything coming together into a very well-organized and attractive little store.  (Plus, I got to do the signage!)

I feel like I'm really in my element, being surrounded by wine and people who love it.  All of my coworkers are fun to be around and they're a breath of fresh air; Whole Foods employees always seemed rather depressed, whereas the Total Wine team seems genuinely enthused to be there.

The whole putting-together-a-new-store endeavor came to a crescendo with a big grand opening party.  I have always wanted to see a ribbon-cutting ceremony, and I did, completed with Big Gold Scissor Action!  


I'm hopeful this is a job I can stick with a bit longer than I did with Whole Foods.  I know I'm still a bit in my honeymoon period, because the job is so new, but overall I just have a very good feeling about this.

I'm looking forward to the new year.  One of my major plans involves going to England in September to attend my writing partner's wedding.  Me and Imo have known each other about ten years digitally, as writers, and we're both really excited to meet in person!  

Other plans include a return to Labyrinth of Jareth (this time with my little sister Kellen), more SCA wars, and viewing the total solar eclipse in Ohio this April!  This job will help offset those travel expenses.

Onward to 2024!

Thursday, January 4, 2024

Christmas 2023 Recap

2023 ended on a really high note for me, because I spent the last week of it at my brother's house in St. Louis!  He offered to host Christmas, and it ended up being a perfect movie-standard holiday vacation, complete with tree, presents, and even snow, though I can't give my brother full credit for that last one, unless you count "enduring residency in St. Louis" as a contributing factor.
 

My brother is three years younger than me.  We're not especially close because my family just isn't like that, or maybe I'm just not like that.  But typically we only speak a few times a year and even then it's mostly just me sending unhinged memes with zero context.

Despite this sort of gentle estrangement, I like Nate a lot and enjoy his company, and the invitation to Christmas came with a fairly interesting backstory.

The context is that my brother had been with his high school sweetheart for fifteen years in what was basically a common-law marriage, though not a legal one.  In 2023 they broke up, and shortly thereafter, my brother had his new boyfriend, Jonah, move in.

The invite to Christmas seemed to be a kind of "Meet the Family" litmus test, and I was intrigued enough by the new boyfriend to accept.  I wanted to meet Jonah, and I'd never seen my brother's house in person, and Nate (my brother) hadn't met Calvin at "talking" age yet.  Calvin is now old enough to actually greet people by name and have conversations (so long as the conversation is about Peppa Pig).

So we arranged a flight on Christmas Day and arrived in the afternoon to a delightfully decorated home.  Nate's new boyfriend, Jonah, had made a ton of food, and had had the foresight to ask us about dietary restrictions beforehand to ensure we could eat it.  

 

Calvin had a nice haul; his favorite toy was the Peppa Pig doll in his stocking, though he was pretty fascinated by the Hot Wheels loop-de-loop playset, which was very loud and promisingly dangerous.  (Launching small, die-cast cars at child eye level at 1 million MPH = fun!)


 
He wouldn't pose for a family picture.

Over the next few days we did typical tourist-y stuff.  We went to the zoo on the day after Christmas, where most of the animals weren't really out and about due to the weather.  My favorite was the hippo, who was paddling around with gusto.  The sleeping hyena got an audible "wow!" from Calvin.

The day after that, we checked out the science museum, which had a lot of interactive "building" exhibits for kids.  I found it a bit overwhelming but the animatronic T-Rex made it (probably) worth it. 

The best day, far and away, was going to City Museum.  City Museum is difficult to describe; Google calls it an "architectural museum" and journalist Whet Moser called it "a wild, singular vision of an oddball artistic mind." 

 City Museum was my brother's suggestion, and it was jaw-droppingly amazing.  Once a shoe factory, it's been repurposed into a sort of giant, bizarre jungle gym that looks kind of like what Tommy Pickles thought "work" was in that one episode of Rugrats.

I'm no architecture but I can tell you that this was a masterwork of madness.  There are tunnels, caves, galleries, castles, a circus, an arcade, a skatepark, and tunnels galore.  Nate suggested putting an airtag on Calvin, which we declined.  We regretted this immediately when he tore off into the tunnels, which go between levels and on the ceiling and into the floor.  

His favorite part was one of the ball pits, and a castle with a trampoline net.
 
Down the staircase... 
 
...and out through the fish.

You basically have to crawl around like in "Die Hard."  There's a 10-story slide but Calvin was too little to ride it (and it was closed, anyway).  Peppered throughout the museum are side shows: storytime with Mrs. Claus!  A magician!  A circus with an acrobat!  (We went, but Calvin found her act too scary; there was a part in which she suspended herself from her hair and twirled rapidly, and he sat in the audience aghast, crying, "Oh no!  Stop!  Stop!" clearly distressed that no one was helping her.)

This is a place I would love to go to over a weekend as just an adult (note: there are bars in City Museum!) but it was also immensely fun to see it through a child's eyes, although indescribably hard on the knees.

Some might say the easiest part was slithering down the narrow vertical tunnels on the ceiling.

On our last (or maybe second-to-last?) day, we swung by the St. Louis arc, as is custom.  

So, all in all, a very packed trip for only four days!  Jonah seemed a little nervous (understandable, meeting your new boyfriend's entire family over the holidays) but generous, and I was impressed by his hospitality.  Nate seemed happy which is the best anyone can ask for, really.

Honestly, even without the zoo, museum, and City Museum Architectural Fever Dream I would have had a great time just hanging out with my family playing Mario Party and day drinking.

Friday, December 29, 2023

Longest Night: A Solstice LARP

I'll admit I have a little bit of a problem with over-committing.  I have major FOMO.  But I also find social interactions to be incredibly emotionally draining.  It's not that I'm not social; I'm actually a pretty big extrovert.  But I also have a pretty high degree of social anxiety and tend to mull over every interaction I have trying to figure out if I did something wrong.

This anxiety isn't entirely misplaced, because I've stuck my foot in my mouth before.  On the other hand, there have been times I didn't, but interacted with the wrong person at the wrong time.

For example, there was a Solstice parlor LARP I went to several years ago in which someone thought a thing I said was directed to them.  (It wasn't.)  The statement was something like, "I don't think people who bring negative energy to parties should come to parties.  It just bums everyone out and dampens the whole mood."  I stand by this statement; don't be a drag.  


One of the people at this party was apparently going through a rough time and stormed off to cry in a backroom somewhere.  (Worth noting that this proves my point; two people had to leave the party to go comfort them, which was probably not how they wanted to spend their night.)

I learned about this instance years later, when I was invited to a party and informed the person was in attendance and didn't like me much because of this situation.  It was the first time I had even been made aware of it and I was horrified to think I'd inadvertently ruined someone's night.

So I went to the party, found the person, and apologized.  They generously told me that there were no hard feelings at all, because obviously, I hadn't directed my statement toward them and didn't mean it cruelly, and the whole "they don't like you" thing that had been relayed to me was just miscommunication from my brother-in-law.

I felt really relieved, until the next day, when I discovered they had gone to my brother-in-law and told him I was "talking trash" about him.  (This is debatable.  I did say my brother-in-law is the king of miscommunication and social awkwardness, which is 100% true and something he already knows about himself.  My brother-in-law was one of the few mutual friends me and this person have between us, so we swapped a few stories, all of which I felt were light-hearted.)  I had very specifically told this person that, to avoid future miscommunication, they should tell me if I ever did or said anything to make them uncomfortable, even if it wasn't directed at them.

Discovering they had taken the first opportunity to complain about something I said was devastating.  It sent me into a real spiral, because it's really one of my biggest fears that people who seem nice are secretly plotting my social demise and talking about me behind my back.  (Happily, my brother-in-law took the accusation with a grain of salt; there's nothing I would say about him to others that I haven't already definitely said to him directly, so the potential drama fizzled out immediately, which was a relief, though the issue was really that anyone tried to ignite it in the first place.)

Rationally, I knew none of this was really my fault.  I can't be expected to be a mind-reader.  I can only do my best, and if someone is going to hold a grudge but not have the decency to tell me, I can't be expected to know.  And the stuff they complained about wasn't stuff that was really directed at them in the first place.  Sure, if they'd told me in the moment to shut up, I would have, out of common courtesy.  But I got the impression this person really just wanted to find fault with me.

But even knowing that, it triggered some massive social anxiety issues.

So this situation, combined with my recent move, made me pretty anti-social for about a year.  Worse, the person who had dredged up all this negativity had a lot of overlapping social circles with me, and I was scared of being around them, since we were 2/2 on them creating issues when I thought there were zero issues.

But I couldn't be a hermit forever.  As you know, I went to Great Western War and had an amazing time, and while I was there, I reconnected with the friends who threw the Solstice parlor LARP.  I hadn't gone in a few years and had gotten it into my head that this was because of the drama this one person had created at the first one I'd been to.  But I had gotten it all wrong.  There hadn't been any LARPs because of, you know, the pandemic.  They were having their "Longest Night" Solstice LARP in 2023, the first since the pandemic, and they were happy to invite me.

I was thrilled!  Unfortunately, when I got the invitation, I realized I had did that whole "over-commitment" thing I mentioned earlier.  See, the 2023 winter solstice landed on Thursday, Decemer 21st, and the party was on the weekend.  On December 23rd, all night, meaning it would finish Christmas Eve.

My family had plans to spent Christmas week with my brother in St. Louis. 


But I was determined to go to Longest Night, and so I braced myself for a classic Tony Turn n' Burn™.

On December 23rd, I drove down to Los Angeles from the Bay, with plans to drive back in the wee hours of the 24th to board a plane and get to my brother's on Christmas day.

A few days before the 23rd I discovered another event that looked appealing: the Fae Picnic.  This is a quarterly event that roughly aligns with the solstices and equinoxes (equinoi?), and it's pretty much exactly what you think it is: people dressing up as mythological fae creatures and then having a picnic.

I didn't see it as much of a stretch, really.  I was already attending Longest Night as the character Dionysus, so it wasn't a big stretch to throw on a pair of hooves and horns and go as a satyr to the fae picnic.


(Not pictured: hooves.)

I swung in, noshed, swung out, and wandered into the Longest Night thoroughly exhausted but determined to have a good time.

About the LARP: the setting was an amalgamation of prior Longest Night LARPs, with most people playing a "returning" character, though all characters were from different LARPs.  The idea was that a rift in universes had deposited multiple people from multiple worlds into a single bar in New York on the winter Solstice.  Most characters were seeking a way home, and there were a few in-game items that could restore them to the correct universe.

As a Greek God, I wasn't actually especially concerned with going back, since I'm, y'know, a god with magical powers.  Also, as the Greek God of wine, being deposited at a bar was great news for me.


I had arrived with my buddy Poseidon.  There was meant to be one other god character, but they couldn't make it, which left me and Poseidon without any strong goals.  We decided to make our own: all we had to do was fit in with the humans for one night, until our powers would be restored at daybreak!  Easy!

What commenced was a hilarious, bumbling, sitcommy situation.  We told everyone we were "normal humans" who worked at the "normal human zoo" (to explain why I was wearing a leopard pelt and why Poseidon kept talking in Dolphin).  We introduced ourselves as Paul Siden and Dio, and overall just had a hilarious time being ancient Greek himbos.

 I searched for a meme with Poseidon and Dionysus together and this was all I could find.

10/10 accuracy.

One of my favorite interactions was speaking to a backwoods hillybilly from the 1920s, who, in the midst of Prohibition, had never touched a drop of alcohol and was a little nervous about the whole idea.  Dio was quick to set him down the right path (that of drunkenness).  The player was so convincingly awesome that, at the end of the night, a few people were genuinely worried that he was actually drunk.  (He was not.  Just a great, great actor.)  Other memorable characters included a steampunk skyship captain and a scientist who had mutated himself into a half-rat, half-man type creature.

In short, it was silly and weird and funny, as all LARPs should be, and I had a great time.  I mostly hung around the bar loudly telling everyone that I was not a Greek God and that they should have some wine.  Having Poseidon around to do bits with (increasingly bad


(I'm terrible at taking pictures.  This is one taken after the party, which is why Poseidon and I look so wasted.  Because we are.)

At the end of the night, as is typical of LARPs, everyone went around the room to talk about their character, their goals, and what had gone down for them during the night.  There were about 30 people total and I hadn't manage to meet all of them, unfortunately.  We also filled out small feedback cards to offer up ideas to the GM and to mention who was our favorite character.

I was flattered when the half-rat scientist turned to me during his summary and earnestly informed me that I was his favorite character and he had had so much fun interacting with me.  That meant a lot because he'd been one of my favorite characters as well.

I didn't remember this from the previous LARP, but after all the comment cards had been collected and the GM had read them, he announced a "winner."  With surprisingly casualness he said it'd been a landslide vote and about half the people in the room had stated that their favorite character was Dionysus.  The prize was the homemade, in-game McGuffin, an electronic "transporter" puzzle box, which came with an elaborate set of instructions to solve. 


How I normally feel interacting with other humans.

I was floored by this revelation that everyone had actually enjoyed hanging out with me.  I had felt a little bit in over my head at times, but had apparently nailed it.  (I felt like I was playing off Poseidon a lot, though.  He helped me carry a lot of the gags.  The GM mentioned, in his own summary, that the favorite interaction he overhead was the bartender offering Poseidon gin, and Poseidon turning to Dionysus to ask if he liked gin.  Naturally, Dio said yes.  "It's wet," he said, which was all the information Poseidon really needed.)

In the future, for the sake of my social anxiety, I would like all parties to have a vote at the end to inform me that I was cool.  It made my whole night and absolutely justified the over-scheduling for me.  After a lot of worry that I was secretly bothering people, during an event with an actual vote on who was the coolest, everyone agreed publicly that, "Yes.  Tony is a cool guy and we appreciate his presence here."

This marks the second time ol' Dio had my back in a party situation.  Maybe there's something to be said for just letting go of my worries and trusting that the rare problems I encounter aren't ones that I actually have anything to do with.


Saturday, December 9, 2023

Here Today, Con Tomorrow: The Cons I've Been To (And Not Been To) This Month

When I last updated this blog, it was about my ongoing dislike for Pete the Cat.

I still don't like Pete the Cat very much, which is just too bad for me, because my kid remains very much in love with him.  He went as Pete the Cat for Halloween and drove almost an hour to San Ramon to meet Pete the Cat in person (in cat, anyway).

At the San Ramon book fair, Pete the Cat was a dancing ball of furry blue energy, and Calvin was delighted to meet him.

 

He was even more delighted when Pete the Cat offered him a special, exclusive backstage tour.

In case you're wondering why I was okay with my preschool-aged son going into a private backstage area with some sweaty dude in a mascot uniform, it's because that sweaty dude was me.  It was me.  I was Pete the Cat.


If you can't beat 'em, join 'em!

While I might not harbor any major love for Pete, I do love costuming, and it's hard to say no to a paid gig that also helps encourage literacy.

I needed the money for San Francisco Fan Expo, the biggest and most local Con for me here in the Bay Area.  It's not necessarily my favorite (L.A. Comic Con will always be my one true love... foreshadowing...) but S.F. Fan Expo was conveniently a week before L.A. Comic Con, allowing me to test out my latest and greatest cosplay: Spider-Man!

 

I've always wanted to do a Spider-Man.  In particular I wanted to do Homecoming Spider-Man.  I'm only six years late, so, not bad!  This is definitely one of my best true-to-the-cinematic-universe fits, and it was relatively comfortable considering the limited visibility.  Among the major advantages were allowing a backpack to be part of the costume.

"Aunt May, can you drop me off at the convention center?"

My Con started a little rough when I was unable to locate the entrance to the convention center and just wandered around San Francisco anxiously, dressed as Spider-Man, although a lady did slip me $5 after asking me to take a picture with her kid.

Once inside I discovered I'd missed the Marvel photoshoot meet-up, which was a disappointment.  But things got better when I met up with some old friends.  (Remember this guy?!)  Also, unlike last time time I went, I did not get lost on public transit.  And no one really bats an eye when they see Spider-Man taking the subway with a take-out container, either.

Andy snapped this when he came to pick me up from the train station.

Honestly kinda captures the whole essence of Spider-Man.

Overall it wasn't the best Con, but I did feel immensely validated by everyone asking for pictures.  I finally got to join a "Spider-Man Pointing" circle (long-time dream of mine), and I was really surprised at everyone's enthusiasm for seeing Spider-Man.  There's always like, about 100 Spider-Mans (Men?) at every Con, but that does not dampen anyone's enthusiasm for seeing Spider-Man.  


Except J. Jonah Jameson.

With my new cosplay, I finally felt I had the credentials to submit an application for The Avengers Initiative, and I can't wait to dip my toes into that in the coming year!  (You might remember them from an article I wrote about Causeplay a few years ago.)

Unfortunately, during the week following the Con, I developed fever and chills.  And being a responsible adult who cares about the well-being of others, I took a Covid test before embarking on my trip to Los Angeles.  And it was a good thing I did, because, what do you know, I had contracted Covid at the convention.  Instead of going to L.A. Comic Con, I spent the week in bed with the typical cough, chills, fatigue, and soreness we've all come to associate with the 'rona.


 Artist's depiction.

I was out the ticket, but I couldn't justify going to a large, crowded event while sick.  So I stayed home.  Because with great power comes great responsibility!

Wednesday, October 18, 2023

Pete the Cat

Sometime in the 1990s, an electrical engineer named James Dean walked into a shelter in Georgia and adopted a black cat named Pete.  James Dean lost the cat within one year, but proceeded to amass $65 million and become a New York Times Bestseller.

If you have, or know, a child under the age of 10, then you are very likely already familiar with who I’m talking about.  Pete the Cat is a beloved children’s franchise with over 100 picture books about the adventures of the titular Pete, a “groovy” blue cat who likes to wear shoes, play guitar, and gaslight himself into being stoically okay with everything in life, including such issues as missing the bus, dropping his crayons, having a dragon kidnap his best friend, and watching his other best friend nearly die in a house fire.  You know, relatable kid stuff. 

  

My son is completely obsessed with Pete the cat, and I have at least two dozen of the books memorized at this point.  

 

 

I will happily tell anyone who listens how loathsome I think Pete the Cat is. It's seriously just complete garbage.  The only redeemable feature of the books is that they have gotten my kid really, really into reading.  Other than that, most of them are poorly written, poorly illustrated, and utterly confusing in the messages they’re trying to convey. 


The books weren’t always terrible, though.  I’m not the only one who noticed that the first handful of Pete the Cat books were relatively benign..  Pete the Cat: I Love My White Shoes was pretty darn good, and the books that came after it (Pete the Cat: Rockin’ in my School Shoes, and Pete the Cat and His Four Groovy Buttons), despite being derivative, were also pretty okay. They had a pleasing cadence and a simple storyline.  


But after Pete the Cat Saves Christmas, it all goes to hell, because the original author, Eric Litwin, left.

 


Let’s backtrack.  In 1999, James Dean, the engineer, was a casual folk artist, who liked to draw pictures of the cat he’d lost.  James Dean looks exactly like you might imagine an electrical engineer with a fixation on cat-themed folk art looks.

 


James Dean can only really draw about four things: cats, tennis shoes, guitars, and motorcycles.  But his cat drawings were just folksy enough for him to self-publish a coffee table book in 2006 called “The Misadventures of Pete the Cat,” which caught the interest of Eric Litwin.  A guitar player and former special ed teacher, Eric Litwin made up a song about Pete, which ended up becoming Pete the Cat: I Love My White Shoes.  Harper Collins picked it up in 2010 and, together, Eric and James published four more Pete the Cat books.


But only two years later, Eric and James had a falling out, which ended in a messy custody battle for Pete, and the two of them refusing to speak to each other.  


James Dean then took it upon himself to begin writing the books.  A year later, he brought on his wife, Kimberly, as a co-author.  Kimberly formerly worked for the Governor’s Press Office in Georgia, and had wanted to work with James on Pete, but they couldn’t really agree on their “vision” for Pete, which is hilarious, because Pete doesn’t have much going on inside his empty little noggin. To quote James Dean, “it became a sad thing in our marriage; we wouldn’t even talk about it.”


Just imagine the two of them sitting silently in front of their dinner, forks clinking on the china, the tension so thick you could cut it with a knife.  Perhaps, under his breath, James Dean mutters, “This isn’t groovy.  Not groovy at all.”  And then Kimberly slams down her wine glass, exclaiming, “You’re not making me feel cool, James!”


This is doubly hilarious because, as the sole illustrator, James Dean doesn’t really seem to have a universal “vision” for Pete, either.  Pete’s head regularly changes shape, ranging from being 90% forehead to long and thin like Hey! Arnold’s.

 

These posters are side-by-side in my son's room. Look at that cat's head.
 

LOOK AT THAT CAT'S HEAD.

 

  

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Anyway.  In 2013, Kimberly finally figured out James’s “vision,” by writing, appropriately enough, a book called “Pete and the Magic Sunglasses,” which proved that she was capable of dreaming up empty-headed platitudes for Pete books.  In “Pete and the Magic Sunglasses,” everyone in Pete’s world decides to not be sad by passing around Grumpy Toad’s sunglasses (and ultimately breaking them, with no apology to Grumpy Toad).  

 


Since then, Kimberly and James have churned out Pete after Pete book, none of which have the pleasing rhyme schemes that Mr. Eric’s books did, and most of which are jaw-droppingly awful, as if they were written on the back of a bar napkin by a goldfish after a few drinks and without any backtracking to ensure all the pieces fit.


For example, in “Sir Pete the Brave,” Pete and his kingdom fall under a spell that puts them to sleep.  When they wake up, they discover that Lady Callie is gone!  She’s vanished!  She’s been… captured by a dragon!  Pete goes to save her, but at no point does it explain who cast the spell or even why.  The dragon itself is not magical and it’s unclear why the spell was a plot point in the first place; you get the impression there was, at some point, a wizard or a witch or a sorcerer, but that James and Kimberly forgot about it and just never bothered to go back and correct it.  In their defense, the book is a whooping 30 pages long, so it’s impractical to expect them to go back and actually edit their stories so that they make sense.


Now, I’m sure you might think I’m being overly harsh to a book meant for children.  (The books claim they are for children ages 4-8, which shocks me.  I would have surmised their audience as being 2-5.)

 

Shout-out to Calvin's older cousin Olivia.
At 6, she wisely noted that the books are "kinda boring," 
but had the emotional maturity not to say it in front of him.

 

But I can’t help but feel there’s a very subtle yet persistent heteronormative, nationalist slant to the books. Putting aside Pete’s sugary sweet and downright toxic positivity, it’s hard not to notice the frequent American flags that bedeck the school house and Grumpy Toad’s motorcycle.  It’s also hard not to notice how Pete’s mom typically only speaks after his dad does, and how she always wears dresses with lace collars, even when camping (though she does forsake her fuzzy stay-at-home mom slippers for gender-coded pink hiking boots).


If you look carefully at the beginning of each book, you’ll notice that James Dean often includes a Bible verse in the dedication.  I first noticed this in Pete the Cat and the Missing Cupcakes, in which Pete discovers (spoiler alert) that Grumpy Toad ate all his cupcakes, and decides to forgive him.  The Bible Verse is Matthew 6:14, about forgiveness.  And if you’re in the know, you can search online for Bible studies involving Pete the Cat and find plenty of mentions of the coded religious themes.

 

The subtle nature of this worldview is easy to dismiss, because it’s not much more than a feeling.  But I got an inkling my gut feeling was correct when I met up with a group of Mormon families for a kid playdate, and they all adamantly declared that they love Pete the Cat.  Pete the Cat is very popular in more conservative circles, and especially among Christian fundamentalists who like how Pete is always happy.  


I get that children’s books should be “nice,” but at the same time, telling kids to just ignore or suppress bad feelings strikes me as emotionally unhealthy.  And there are plenty of books about feeling bad (for example, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day) that have a message that’s a little more nuanced than Pete’s dismissive “it’s all good” refrain.  Having a bad day or feeling a bad feeling isn’t wrong, and to tell kids to just choose to be happy is, in my opinion, emotionally stunting.

 


A much healthier response to negative stimuli is writing excessively long posts on the internet complaining about the thing you don’t like.


Another coping mechanism for stomaching Pete the cat has been to develop some pretty robust headcanon for the world of Pete the Cat. Despite Pete being a franchise, the books have little consistency, but I can make a pretty strong argument that Pete the Cat is living in a collapsing apartheid state.


In the early books, Pete’s world is populated solely by cats.  His school, the bus, the grocery store: all of these are cat-only spaces.  Then, in “The New Guy,” Gus the Platypus moves in, and suddenly we see a world with lots of other animals, such as toads, dogs, and alligators.  But while we see them as part of Pete’s friend group, his school still seems entirely cat-dominated, and all skilled jobs (such as doctors) are always cats.  If you arrange the books chronologically, you can witness the background shift of the population as the segregation of the world slowly erodes, a political process Pete is entirely oblivious to.

 


What is Pete’s age?  No one knows.  Half the time he’s scribbling away with crayons and the other half of the time he’s stealing snowplows to pave the streets.  My best guess is that Pete is Schrodinger’s age: he is 5 years old (hence, crayons and show-and-tell), which is 35 in cat years (hence, the driving).


I could rant endlessly about Pete’s strange fever-dream world, but for the sake of brevity, I have compiled three five-book lists to take a look at.  This might seem excessive, but there are over 100 Pete titles, so this is really only scraping the surface.  Let’s start with the good Pete books, of which there are few.

 


"GOOD" PETE BOOKS

One thing all of the S-tier list books have in common is that they feature simple stories of Pete doing something a normal child might do, and learning a basic childhood message.  They’re relatable and predictable in a way that feels cozy, which works with Pete’s simplistic, homegrown art style and general vibe.

  • Rocking in my School Shoes and I Love My White Shoes are functionally the same book, so I’m listing them as a single entry.  
    • Premise: James Dean can draw shoes pretty well.
    • Highlight: “Here comes Pete / Rocking down the street / Wearing four shoes on his four furry feet.” A rare instance of very pleasing cadence and rhyme scheme. This is because they were written by Mr. Eric. Not Ibsen, but far and away the best Pete has to offer.
    • Minor criticism: When Pete steps on the mountain-sized pile of blueberries, we see him in profile, and so help him, James Dean cannot draw a cat in profile to save his fucking life. Sideways Pete haunts my dreams and, when I am old and weak, will come for me on my deathbed.
  • Pete the Cat and the Cool Caterpillar
    • Premise: Pete finds a caterpillar and watches it turn into a butterfly.
    • Highlight: They let the butterfly go at the end.
    • Minor criticism: They call a cocoon a “pupa,” which is way, way too silly of a word if you are three years old.
  • Pete the Cat’s Trip to the Supermarket
    • Premise: Pete and his family go to the supermarket.  For once, we see Dad doing something domestic, albeit in a tie. 
    • Highlight: They count down the aisles from 10 to 1 so that, as a parent, I am assured I’m nearly finished with the book.
    • Minor criticism: The Cat family buys no toilet paper or cat litter, and there appears to be an entire aisle of samples, including whole hot dogs and cupcakes. 
  • Pete the Cat’s Train Trip
    • Premise: Pete rides a train to see his Grandma.
    • Highlight: Kids like trains.
    • Minor criticism: Pete whips out his guitar to play to the other train passengers, which is bad etiqutte on public transportation. 
  • Pete the Cat and the Tip-Top Treehouse
    • Premise: Pete and the gang build an elaborate treehouse that has a movie theatre, an ice rink, and more. 
    • Highlight: A surprisingly poignant ending. Dispersed inside the sprawling treehouse, Pete and his friends all find themselves a little bored because they’re alone, so they meet at the jungle gym at the base of the tree and tell Pete how glad they are he built the treehouse, because it “brought us all together!” 
    • Minor criticism: There's an unaddressed plothole. Why couldn't they have all just hung out together in one of the treehouse’s many cool places?
    • Shout-out: This book introduces Emma, the slightly manic pug, who throws down the elaborate blueprints for the treehouse the second Pete asks what they should do in the treehouse.  She’s all business.  I love her.  

 

ESPECIALLY BAD PETE BOOKS

  • Firefighter Pete
    • Premise: Pete’s class takes a field trip to a fire station, which sounds like a great premise.  Except then the alarm goes off, and instead of shoving the kids aside, the firefighters take Pete with them, in full protective gear, to a house fire.  The house is engulfed in flame and Pete discovers his friend Grumpy Toad trapped in mortal peril on the second floor.
    • Why It Sucks: This book went from zero to 100 in a big hurry, and not in a way I’m fond of. 
    • Also: The house Grumpy Toad is in isn’t even his house.
  • Scuba Pete
    • Premise: Pete goes scuba-diving for the first time (this is established in the book) without a diving buddy.  On the search for a sea horse, he encounters and gets close to some surprisingly dangerous and really abyssal sea life, including a stingray, an electric eel, one of those crabs that hangs out at whale falls, a jellyfish, a blowfish, and a sperm whale.  
    • Why It Sucks: Oblivious to even the most fundamental safe diving practices, Pete goes into a dark cave and gets lost. 
    • Also: Pete’s unsafe diving practices aren’t all on Pete.  I also blame Captain Joe for dumping Pete into the middle of the ocean and offering no advice, except for a vague and unhelpful description of a sea horse. You just KNOW that Captain Joe has blood on his paws.
  • Cavecat Pete
    • Premise: This is, hands-down, my LEAST favorite Pete the Cat book.  Pete is a caveman who makes a picnic for his friends, who are dinosaurs.  
    • Why It Sucks: The picnic goes wrong, so Pete plays guitar at his friends until they have fun??  Also, his friends’ complaints are valid: the T. Rex doesn’t want to eat salad (the ONLY food offered, brought by the first dino friend Pete encountered; Pete asks no one else to bring anything), and one of the dinosaurs is sick with a cold (not his fault).  This isn’t the only time Pete plays guitar at a problem to make it go away; in “Pete and the Treasure Map,” he responds to a sea monster attack with his guitar, under the somehow correct assumption that the sea monster is a drummer.  Remember in RENT when Roger saves Mimi from dying of AIDS by playing his guitar?  It didn’t work then and it doesn’t work now.
    • Also: I wonder if the author is a creationist or if the book is just capitalizing on children’s love of dinosaurs.
  • Go, Pete, Go! 
    • Premise: A typical tortoise-and-hare plot, with Turtle driving a racecar and Pete pedaling a bicycle. 
    • Why It Sucks: Neither of them actually appears to be racing at all.  Turtle stops at a diner, stops to get lemonade, and takes a nap.  But Pete doesn’t stay on task either.  He stops to eat an apple, and also stops to literally smell some roses.  Pete’s victory is entirely arbitrary.  Pete is nice and Turtle is kind of a jerk, and I think we’re supposed to think Pete wins because he’s nice, but that’s not how racing works and not what the Tortoise and the Hare was about.  
    • Also: Emma, the pug, makes a cameo, in which she refuses to race her car because it’s too old and broken. Emma would never let her vehicle fall into such disrepair.
  • Construction, Destruction
    • Premise: Pete goes out to recess to discover that the playground is a mess.  How did it turn into a post-apocalyptic junk yard over the course of a single school day?  Who cares!  Instead of this being a lesson in stewardship, with Pete and his friends cleaning up the place, Pete scribbles out some crayon drawings of a new playground, and the principal of the school puts him in charge of a full construction crew to build it.  They violently destroy the old playground and build a new one, but Pete decides it isn’t cool enough, so he insists on changing the plans last-minute against their advice.  What Pete builds is a death trap that literally collapses while everyone is admiring it.  (He’s lucky as hell no one was actually playing on it.)  The pile of rubble is disappointing to everyone, except Pete, who declares it to be “even better” than they imagined it.  
    • Why It Sucks: The moral of the story?  “Sometimes, you have to dare to dream big.”  That’s right.  Pete’s poorly-conceived, dangerous playground that fell apart into a non-functional pile of scrap was hailed as a success and considered part of his “dream.”
    • Also: Cat Apartheid is very evident in this one, with all of the school administrators and students being cats but all the lowly construction laborers being other animals. Grumpy Toad is a construction worker, implying child labor for the lower castes is not uncommon in the Peteverse.

ONES I'M CONFLICTED ABOUT

 

  • Pete the Cat and the New Guy
    • What's Up: This one lives rent-free in my mind as the ending of Cat Apartheid.  I like the message of Pete welcoming the new guy, but I think it’s weird how Pete greets Gus by telling him he looks weird and asking what he is (stopping just short of asking to touch his hair).
  • Pete the Cat and the Missing Cupcakes 
    • What's up: This one could be S-tier, if not for a few issues.  First of all, the book establishes that the cupcake party starts at 3, but later, the cupcake party is held in the evening.  Second of all, it’s weird that Pete just goes around accusing the shit out of all of his friends of taking the cupcakes without any evidence, and demanding alibis, and no one, at any point, calls Pete out for being an asshole.  
  • Pete the Cat and the Not-So-Groovy Day
    • What's Up: Indisputably Calvin’s favorite.  I suppose it’s age-appropriate enough, but the ending is that the not-so-groovy day was groovy after all and that Pete is happy.  Seeing Callie gaslight Pete into having a good day felt just a little off; Pete’s relentless happiness is unnatural and emotionally dishonest.
  • Pete the Cat and the Lost Tooth
    • What's up: The Tooth Fairy asks for Pete’s help and gives him a list of kids to visit.  So Pete breaks into Callie’s and Alligator’s houses to take their teeth and leave them coins.  Then he goes to Gus’s house, where there is no tooth, because, as Gus explains when he wakes up, as a platypus, he does not have teeth.  Pete gives him a coin anyway, and concludes that “even though everyone’s different, being kind is always cool!”  This leads to so many questions, the main one being, why was Gus on the tooth list in the first place if he lacks teeth?  
  • Pete the Kitty’s First Day of Preschool
    • What's up: This is a book I desperately WANT to like, because it’s got a simple plot of Pete the Kitty going to preschool and having a nice day.  But this book can’t choose whether or not it wants to rhyme, so it splits the difference, resulting in some pages rhyming and some not.  When read out loud, it’s a hot mess, without any kind of beat or cadence.
    • Actual excerpt: "He runs to put everything in his new backpack / Pete's backpack is really groovy! / He picked it out himself at the store. / Now it is time to head out the door!"  

Honorable Mentions

  • Pete at the Beach is about Pete learning to surf, and the message is that, even though it’s okay to be scared, it’s also good to try new things, a nuanced and excellent message.  
  • In Pete’s Big Lunch, Pete is hungry.  He makes a big sandwich.  It’s too big!  He shares it with his friends.  “Sharing it cool.” That’s it,  that’s the whole book.  It encourages sharing and trying new foods.  10/10
  • Pete the Cat and the Mysterious Smell stands out to me as probably the only book that has any actual humor, with the gang searching for a bad smell while Grumpy Toad worries that they’ll miss pizza day at school, and the eventual ironic reveal that the smell is a rotten sandwich in Grumpy Toad’s backpack.

Dishonorable Mentions

  • Pete the Cat: Out Of This World! is an advertisement for Space Camp.  Pete goes to Space Camp and is put on a shuttle to the moon, where he plays “a groovy interstellar tune” (ignoring that there’s no sound in space) and almost gets abandoned on Mars, because apparently the shuttle is like a bus and if you’re not back in time they just leave without you.  Literally the last page is an advertisement for space camp.
  • The First Thanksgiving features Pete in a Pilgrim’s hat, sharing "maize" with the "Indians."  🙃
 
CONCLUSION
 
Pete the Cat sucks. A lot of kids' books suck, but they don't have to. Some (like the Llama Llama franchise) are charmingly illustrated and well-written. 
 
But ultimately, the point of a children's book isn't to redefine literature. It's to introduce kids to the allure of stories, and to get them invested in reading. And in this, Pete the Cat excels. Pete the Cat was my child's first "fandom," and while I can't say I like it, it's not for me. It's for him. And when you're a parent, sometimes, you grit your teeth and agree that "it's all good."